In case you’ve been living under a
rock, we have an election in November. Every election is a triggering event for
me. I am the mother of a precious and
beautiful child who is part of the LGBTQ community. Every election, I am reminded of the reasons people
give for putting people in power that take rights and protections away from my
child. Many think marriage equality was
upheld so there is nothing else to worry about – not so. Over and over, my heart is broken by
strangers and by friends and by family.
So, before you vote in November, maybe you can at least understand the ramifications of your vote on my family and maybe even vote for equality for my child. I am desperately fighting for my daughter to have equal rights by the time she finishes college and enters adulthood.
In Texas, there is no protection for my child from discrimination in housing, education, healthcare, credit, or gender marker change, for instance. Several key protections were rescinded by the current federal administration. The Supreme Court recently ruled that the 1964 Civil Rights Act included protection from employment discrimination for LGBTQ Americans so thank you to those justices who consider my child worthy of her right to fair employment. And make no mistake, LGBTQ people are suffering from discrimination in the areas I list above. These are not exaggerated or isolated incidents. And it’s not only the absence of protections; it is the passing of discriminatory legislation as well.
The experience of someone in
authority telling you they refuse to treat your child with dignity or to abide by
a judge’s order is one I hope nobody has.
The experience of parents telling their kids they can’t come to our
house or waiting on pins and needles to see if the legal system will treat your
child fairly is heartbreaking. If you
haven’t been through this, you don’t understand how it diminishes you. I will say this experience has made me even
more supportive of dismantling any sort of structures or systems that perpetuate
injustice.
Some people won’t vote for a progressive
candidate because they want lower taxes or the unborn are more important than
my [already born] child or while they are “fiscally conservative but socially
progressive,” they vote conservatively because well, the economy. The economy/my wallet argument is a luxury and
a privilege I don’t have. And to be clear,
civil rights are not “social issues” to believe in or not believe in. What I hear is: My bank account is more important than civil
rights for your child. It’s personal.
Please don’t tell me you are working
to “change things from the inside.” There is no time for that. One day, the Republican party will recover
from the damage done by Trump and the religious right. But right now, my daughter needs healthcare, education,
and safety. And dignity.
And lastly, do not tell me you love
or support my child while voting for conservatives, especially in this election.
You are not supporting my child. While you may be a sympathizer, you are not
an ally. An ally cares so much about issues
that don’t directly affect them, that they are willing to give up something to
help. If you still want to vote for conservatives,
that’s your right. But don’t go to bed
at night with a clear conscience because you feel sorry for us.
If you would like to learn more about the science of gender
and sexuality, I recommend the National Geographic documentary, Gender Revolution.
If you would like to learn more about the experience of being
LGBTQ in America, watch the documentary, For They Know Not What They Do.
